Please Stop Telling Me I'm "Lucky"
“You’re so lucky” - have you ever said that to someone? I’m sure you meant well, right?
It’s something people say to Kris and I all the time. It’s usually in response to one of the core elements of our lifestyle:
- A drama-free polyamorous relationship
- Delicious, healthy food
- Loads of travel
- Self employment
- Passive income
- A worldwide network of friends
- A rich community of healers
What does this all add up to?
A life of FREEDOM.
The response, “You’re so lucky” is:
Frustrating because saying we’re lucky implies we just stumbled into this life accidentally.
Sad because it implies they can’t build the same thing for themselves.
Saying, “You’re so lucky” is an easy way to look at someone that you envy and justify why you’re not also happy and fulfilled.
The reality is - we did the work and created this for ourselves.
The best part is: you can do it, too.
Lately we’ve been thinking about how we can help people, in the bigger picture sense. A few weeks ago I had a BodyTalk session where the concept, “Taking it to the next level” kept coming up - the idea that I needed to take how I live and what I know to the masses and up my game.
My mind immediately went to coaching people, which I do not want to do.
But the next night - we got an inquiry via our blog asking for a coaching session. Go figure. So we set it up to give it a try and see if I was wrong - maybe coaching is for me and I just don’t know it. The call went well and amazing things were said, but when it was all said and done it was:
- Exhausting to have to be that “on” for an hour
- Annoying to have to schedule life around the call
- Kind of pointless because nothing said was specific to that person
It was quite clear that giving this information one person at a time was not efficient. Coaching puts a ceiling on how many people you can help - There’s only so many hours in the day - and how much money you can make. Also - I'm just not a people person in that way. I don't want to deal with people. I just want to give them the information and kick back on a beach somewhere. Ain't no shame in that.
The biggest takeaway was the fact that most of this stuff is general and applies to a mass audience - something I hadn’t realized before. It inspired Kris and I to sit down and simply write out what it is we did to get “here”. To this life of freedom.
In about 12 minutes we jammed out 20+ basic points, some of them being:
- Eliminating Clutter: Physical Items + Emotional Baggage
- Healthy Relationships With Yourself & Others: Set Boundaries and Eliminate Guilt
- Polyamory, Monogamy, Jealousy, Sex, Commitment, and Intimacy
- Transparency, authenticity and being awesome at communicating
- Food and plants are medicine
- Exercise and physical movement
- Mindfulness, meditation, spirituality, religion
- Buy less, reuse more, reduce your impact
- Shift your focus from health insurance to prevention
- Cars and housing: how to shop smart
- How to lower your overhead
- Passive income - the new retirement plan
- How to make travel a part of your lifestyle
- How to quit your job and find your passion
We quickly realized what we had in front us:
Reality Rehab: The E-Course
Specifically - a four-month online course elaborating on all of the above topics (and many more) filled with information, worksheets, audio files, videos, and resources delivered in a sweet, yet blunt to-the-point, in-your-face kind of way.
Because what other way is there when you’re talking about changing your life?
Read the full outline and sign up for Reality Rehab here.