Posts tagged relationships
Let's stop with these bullshit declarations of what love can be

I wrote my own motherfucking ideas about what love is because this is what I know to be true. That is what I want other's to know is possible for them. That love is cuddles and rainbows and that if you're regularly giving each other the silent treatment and hurting each other's feelings and accepting this as the norm simply because you're in a long term relationship....it doesn't have to be like that.

 

#sex #love #relationships #intimacy #realityrehab

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How I Discovered I Am A Sexual Healer

Over the past couple of months I have encountered multiple situations that have caused me to stop and think about my sexuality and what it means to me.  And by sexuality, I don’t mean sexual orientation, but rather who I am sexually attracted to and why.  I have noticed that the types of people that I identify on paper as an ideal sexual partner are different than the types of people that I have recently found myself sexually attracted to in real life.   

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Why Your Open Relationship Isn't Polyamory

Over the past few years I have encountered lots of people who claim to be polyamorous only to hear them explain a few minutes later that their definition of poly means they live at home with a spouse and children, and occasionally they go on dates and/or have sex with another person on the side who never meets the spouse and never knows the family.  This is not the same thing as polyamory, this is simply an open relationship, and I feel like the two often get lumped together in a very confusing and frustrating way.  

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To Push or Not to Push {Thoughts on the "American Dream" and owning your shit}

I think that the whole concept of the American Dream is complete horse shit. Go to college, get married, have a family, work really really hard and then retire and enjoy your golden years. I mean - none of that works for me, but especially the concept of having to work hard.

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6 Things Men Can Do To Not Suck At Relationships

Here is a quick list of things you can do as a man to be a good relationship partner.  From polarity to affection to basic respect - these are all things I wish someone would have hammered into my thick skull when I was 23 but instead it took me until I was about 35 to figure it out on my own.  So here's an opportunity to learn from someone else's mistakes!

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Five Reasons To Restore Your Foreskin {And why circumcision is bullsh*t}

I'm sure you 98% of you will read this title and think to yourself "...Um...What?!"  Especially if you're a red-blooded American male.  I personally fall right into this category myself.  I'm an American male, I was circumcised at birth, and the first time I heard the notion of foreskin restoration I thought it was some kind of joke.  Like, why would anyone want their damn foreskin restored, aren't they removed for a reason?  And also, what the fuck even is a foreskin really?  I mean, I've gone through my whole life with my circumcised penis and it works just fine.  

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How to Have a Radically Honest Relationship

A more “mainstream” title for my partner and I could be “polyamorous” or “in an open relationship”, in all honesty -- we don't resonate with any of those titles anymore. We've started saying "relationship anarchists" or simply just "none of your business". It seems putting a label on something only serves to encourage other people to pre-judge and decide they already know who you are without actually getting to know you. 

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