Posts in Sexuality + Relationships
Let's stop with these bullshit declarations of what love can be

I wrote my own motherfucking ideas about what love is because this is what I know to be true. That is what I want other's to know is possible for them. That love is cuddles and rainbows and that if you're regularly giving each other the silent treatment and hurting each other's feelings and accepting this as the norm simply because you're in a long term relationship....it doesn't have to be like that.

 

#sex #love #relationships #intimacy #realityrehab

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Tell Me What You're Afraid to Lose

It always comes up when we talk about "being polyamorous" which I actually really am starting to loathe the term. Why do we have to put a label on it? Because we all like labels. They make us feel comfortable.

Gay
strait
dominant
submissive
the winner
the loser
divorced
separated
right-handed
republican
entrepreneur

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Reality Rehab: Your Road Map To A Life Of Freedom

Hey!  Is your life sucking right now?  Do you go to bed every night thinking "shit, I have to drag my ass out of bed in just 6 hours and go to a job that I hate all day tomorrow?"  Lemme guess, you're probably also overweight, out of shape, and don't have near as much money as you wish you did.  I'll bet your relationship sucks too, if you're even still in one.  It's probably also a safe guess that your doctor has you on all kinds of bullshit pills to help combat your self-induced misery. 

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A Rant About Birth Control. And the Synchronicities Around Getting my IUD Removed.

I still can’t believe it’s 2016 and we don’t have better birth control options. It’s either take some crazy fake hormones, or have some foreign body inserted in your uterus, or chart your cycles and risk having an abortion. Ultimately I ended up getting an IUD because it wasn’t fake hormones (I got the copper one) and it didn’t mess with your cycle - you still bled and ovulated and all that as per usual.

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How to Eliminate Jealousy From Your Relationship

I had a revelation when I applied the basic principles of attachment parenting to adult intimate relationships. MIND BLOWN. And now, I'll share it with you. 

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Do You Suck At Online Dating?

Hey men, you wanna see some pathetic shit?  Go and set up a fake OkCupid profile as a female, and watch your inbox rapidly fill with the most awful garbage you have ever read.  Actually, don’t do that because that’s a little weird, just read this article instead. You'll learn how not to be a douche bag on Tinder and other online dating sites. 

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How I Discovered I Am A Sexual Healer

Over the past couple of months I have encountered multiple situations that have caused me to stop and think about my sexuality and what it means to me.  And by sexuality, I don’t mean sexual orientation, but rather who I am sexually attracted to and why.  I have noticed that the types of people that I identify on paper as an ideal sexual partner are different than the types of people that I have recently found myself sexually attracted to in real life.   

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Why Your Open Relationship Isn't Polyamory

Over the past few years I have encountered lots of people who claim to be polyamorous only to hear them explain a few minutes later that their definition of poly means they live at home with a spouse and children, and occasionally they go on dates and/or have sex with another person on the side who never meets the spouse and never knows the family.  This is not the same thing as polyamory, this is simply an open relationship, and I feel like the two often get lumped together in a very confusing and frustrating way.  

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That One Time My Girlfriend And I Got Side-By-Side Erotic Massages In Budapest

Last summer, my girlfriend Katie and I stayed in Budapest, Hungary. While we were researching Hungarian society, we learned that sex work is legal and all sex workers are part of a union, are covered by state funded healthcare, receive regular checkups, testing, and other support from the government. Brothels or pimping is illegal, which allows all sex workers to remain in complete control of their situations and their money.

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6 Things Men Can Do To Not Suck At Relationships

Here is a quick list of things you can do as a man to be a good relationship partner.  From polarity to affection to basic respect - these are all things I wish someone would have hammered into my thick skull when I was 23 but instead it took me until I was about 35 to figure it out on my own.  So here's an opportunity to learn from someone else's mistakes!

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Five Reasons To Restore Your Foreskin {And why circumcision is bullsh*t}

I'm sure you 98% of you will read this title and think to yourself "...Um...What?!"  Especially if you're a red-blooded American male.  I personally fall right into this category myself.  I'm an American male, I was circumcised at birth, and the first time I heard the notion of foreskin restoration I thought it was some kind of joke.  Like, why would anyone want their damn foreskin restored, aren't they removed for a reason?  And also, what the fuck even is a foreskin really?  I mean, I've gone through my whole life with my circumcised penis and it works just fine.  

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How to Have a Radically Honest Relationship

A more “mainstream” title for my partner and I could be “polyamorous” or “in an open relationship”, in all honesty -- we don't resonate with any of those titles anymore. We've started saying "relationship anarchists" or simply just "none of your business". It seems putting a label on something only serves to encourage other people to pre-judge and decide they already know who you are without actually getting to know you. 

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